January 30 2017

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, January 30, 2017

I think this quote from Anthony de Mello in his book, Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality, summarizes our Live Now…Allow Change theme this month:

You need to be liberated. Don’t carry over experiences from the past. In fact, don’t carry over good experiences from the past either. Learn what it means to experience something fully, then drop it and move on to the next moment, uninfluenced by the previous one. You’d be traveling with such little baggage that you could pass through the eye of a needle.

Obviously, when you’re grieving a loved one, this liberation can be hard and take more time than you’d like. Be gentle with yourself, seek support and sit with grief when it calls to you.

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