April 17 2017

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, April 17, 2017

Stories are powerful and are part of what’s left even when we’re gone from this earth – a very important part.  According to a 2012 Allianz Life Insurance Company survey, baby boomers and their parents agree that family stories are the most important part of their legacy, even more important than financial inheritance and possessions.  And Emory University research found that children who hear these family stories have higher levels of self-esteem, lower levels of anxiety, fewer behavioral problems, better family functioning and an internal locus of control. 

As you can see, telling, writing, sharing and listening to our stories matters throughout our life.  So What’s Your Story?  Take some time to consider it, write it and share it.  Pay attention to these words of wisdom from British writer, Philip Pullman, “After nourishment, shelter and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.”

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