August 28 2017

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, August 28, 2017

Attending to your own legacy is an important function of your life now. One way to do that is to write an ethical will or “legacy letter.” Rabbi Jack Riemer and Dr. Nathaniel Stampler say, “…the impulse to write it is deeply human as well as sanctified by tradition.” They suggest you address numerous topics such as:

  • These were the formative events of my life…
  • This is the world from which I came…
  • These are some of the important lessons that I have learned in my life…
  • These are the people who influenced me the most…
  • These are some of the favorite possessions that I want you to have and these are the stories that explain what makes these things so precious to me…
  • These are causes for which members of our family have felt a sense of responsibility and I hope you will too…
  • These are the mistakes that I regret having made the most in my life that I hope you will not repeat…
  • This is my definition of true success…
  • This is how I feel as I look back over my life…
  • I would like to ask your forgiveness for… and I forgive your for…
  • I want you to know how much I love you and how grateful I am to you for …

Stephen Covey said, “People are internally motivated by their own four needs: to live, to love, to learn, to leave a legacy.” We want to help you meet those needs. Please check out our News & Events page for more information.

                                                                                              (First printed in the July 26 Centre County Gazette)

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

November 13 2017

Do you need help getting started with having your own Talk of a Lifetime? It’s easy. Choose a date to gather your family and friends, print the Holiday Guide and begin sharing those meaningful stor...

November 6 2017

November is Time for Family, Time for Talk month. Time to share stories, remember and learn about what matters most to the people who matter most to you. The Funeral and Memorial Information Counci...

October 30 2017

There is a lot of power and energy behind crashing waves, each shape the shoreline. For many observers, there is also a soothing sound and rhythm. This is some of nature’s beauty and transformative...

October 23 2017

We’ve spent time this month comparing the waves of grief to waves of the ocean. Another thing that goes along with breaking ocean waves are rip currents.  Rip currents are very fast-moving cha...

October 16 2017

One thing I really appreciate about comparing grief to waves is that you know an ocean wave eventually ends. As a wave builds and builds, on the other side it crashes and is gone. When I was in lab...

October 9 2017

As we explore our theme, “Grief, It Comes in Waves,” what first comes to mind for me is the nature of waves. They come from what seems like nowhere, they build, they crash, they pause and then they...

October 2 2017

This month our theme is “Grief, It Comes in Waves.”  I always appreciate when we compare our human experiences with nature. First, because we too are nature. And second, because nature has so ...

September 25 2017

I recently read the book Limping But Blessed: Wrestling with God after the Death of a Child by Jason Jones. In it Jason describes the agonizing pain and guilt he felt after his son’s accident. For ...

September 18 2017

Have you heard about the blame and shame game? When something goes wrong, we point the finger at someone – blame them – and then treat them with disrespect – shame them. No one wins in that scenari...

September 11 2017

As we continue looking at holding on or letting go of guilt and blame, I think of a grief education and support group I facilitated a few years ago. At one meeting, a woman shared some regrets she ...