October 9 2017

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, October 9, 2017

As we explore our theme, “Grief, It Comes in Waves,” what first comes to mind for me is the nature of waves. They come from what seems like nowhere, they build, they crash, they pause and then they come along again. Grief is like that too. It feels like it comes out of nowhere, it builds inside of you until it crashes and overwhelms you, it pauses and then the next wave comes again. I want to encourage you that with some time and distance, the waves usually crash less frequently.  

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