February 27 2017

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, February 27, 2017

When I sit with families and hear the stories of their recently deceased loved ones lives to then create personalized services for them, the love in the room is often palpable. In Thornton Wilder’s Bridge of San Luis Rey he wrote, “There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning.” Love is Eternal.

Sometimes our culture sends the message to forget and move on. Most people I talk to don’t want to forget. They want to continue to feel the love they knew when their loved one was alive. I encourage these people to spend some time with their memories, feel that love and continue to heal. Remembering can become a problem when it is all you do; when you stop living your todays. It can also hurt if you get stuck in painful memories and are unable to find peace. If these things happen, professionals can help.

I invite you to take time to “meet” and remember your loved ones.  Share a memory of them with someone else, visit one of their favorite spots, cook their favorite meal. I also invite you to visit our News and Evens page and take part in one of our upcoming programs.

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