September 11 2017

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, September 11, 2017

As we continue looking at holding on or letting go of guilt and blame, I think of a grief education and support group I facilitated a few years ago. At one meeting, a woman shared some regrets she had concerning her loved one’s death. After she spoke, another member told the group that she was struck by the first woman’s use of the word regret. Hearing “regret” reframed her experiences with her own husband’s death. Instead of saying, “I feel guilty…,” this second woman was now going to say, “I regret…”  That one word made all the difference for her. She let go of the guilt she had been feeling. There is a difference between guilt and regret. Perhaps you want to consider regret as well? 

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

June 10 2019

This week we continue with the theme, Grief. Companions Come in Many Forms.” I share with you now, Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D.’s 11 Tenets of Companioning the Bereaved: Companioning is about… Being pre...

June 3 2019

Our theme this month is “Grief. Companions Come in Many Forms.” Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D., first introduced me to the concept of grief companions. As a spiritual director, the tenets of grief companionin...

May 27 2019

The theme, “Loss. What Never Changes?” makes me think of the classic movie, The Wizard of Oz. After all kinds of loss, Dorothy learns that in order to return home, she doesn’t need the help of the ...

May 20 2019

In order to help us embrace our brokenness and attend to what never changes in loss, it is important to find safe places and communities where our hidden wholeness is welcome.  Our Monday’s Mo...

May 13 2019

Last week we introduced this month’s theme, “Loss. What Never Changes?” and referenced the hidden wholeness within us. In his book, A Hidden Wholeness: The Journey toward an Undivided Life – Welcom...

May 6 2019

Our theme this month is “Loss. What Never Changes?” In the Voices of Grief: Honoring the Sacred Journey documentary we share in the community, author, retreat leader, and speaker, Paula D’Arcy, tal...

April 29 2019

Last week I asked you where you find light, your light that helps you find the path by walking it. An instructor in my spiritual direction training, Nancy Bieber, talks about carrying a lantern as ...

April 22 2019

As you find your path by walking it, it is helpful to take light along the way. In the documentary Voices of Grief: Honoring the Sacred Journey, Paula D’Arcy says, “There are many lamps, there’s on...

April 15 2019

There are as many ways through grief as there are people. To find your unique path by walking it, you allow yourself to grieve. Three skills that can help are: Noticing – Attending and surrender...

April 8 2019

Just as we shared last week in Marilyn McEntyre’s “What to Do in the Darkness” poem, you find your path through grief by walking it. How do you do that? We each do it in our unique way by experienc...