May 21 2018

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, May 21, 2018

Before and after a loved one’s death, nurturing yourself is critically important.

Nurturing can come in a variety of forms, so where do you begin? As is evident in the story of the patriarch we shared over the last two weeks, community is one way. Communities can support you, companion you and provide you with a safe place to share your stories and heal. According to writer and psychotherapist Francis Weller, “Without the protection of the community, grief cannot be fully released or processed.” Unfortunately in our culture, neighborhood communities are not as prevalent anymore. You have to be purposeful about finding your own. We offer different opportunities to find community. Please check out our Gathering and Events page to learn more.

(Adapted from the article first printed in the Gazette on May 3, 2018)

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