October 29 2018

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, October 29, 2018

Not only do we want to consider our own legacies, but we want to honor the legacies of our deceased loved ones too. Below are a few ideas:

  1. Light a candle.
  2. Make a quilt out of their old clothes.
  3. Hold a memorial service or candlelight vigil.
  4. Finish any projects they were working on.
  5. Bring flowers to their grave and keep the area well-tended.
  6. Cook their favorite meal.
  7. Make a scrapbook of their life.
  8. Get a tattoo of their name or of their handwriting.
  9. Reach out to family and friends who are also grieving and share stories about the departed.
  10. Plant a tree or have one planted.
  11. Read their favorite books.
  12. Volunteer for their favorite causes, or give a donation in their name
  13. Plant a flower or vegetable garden and put in a decoration that reminds you of them.
  14. Hold a charity drive in their name for food, toys or something to help others.
  15. Wear their favorite perfume or cologne.
  16. Write a letter and air anything that may have been left unsaid.
  17. Adopt a section of highway in their name.
  18. Sing their favorite song.
  19. Complete their bucket list.
  20. Sponsor a bench or brick at one of their favorite places.
  21. Participate in some of their favorite hobbies, even if you have a lot to learn about them.
  22. Make amends with someone you’ve been avoiding.
  23. Frame something they’ve written like a poem or a recipe.
  24. Remember them during life events like weddings, anniversaries and holidays.
  25. Live your life in a way that would make them proud. Finish (or go back to) school, have adventures and be happy. It’s what they would have wanted for you.

 

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