January 7 2019

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, January 7, 2019

Our theme this month is How Do You Speak Grief? According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages book, we each feel most loved by others in one of these five ways:

  • Receiving Gifts
  • Spending Quality Time Together
  • Hearing Words Of Affirmation
  • Being The Beneficiary Of Acts Of Service
  • Experiencing Physical Touch

Dr. Alan Wolfelt of the Center for Loss and Transition believes these same languages are involved when we are grieving; they become preferred ways of others caring for us. We’ll explore these five preferred ways of being supported in our grief over the next few weeks.

If you’re interested in determining your own preferred love language, visit https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/. This is a test for your preferred love language, not you’re preferred grief language. Translating these languages to our grief journey is the subject of this month’s posts. Also, if you are grieving a spouse and/or partner, please know the test does ask you if you are single or in a relationship.

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