July 1 2019

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, July 1, 2019

Our theme this month is “Life Goes On, How Do You?” Although it wasn’t the loss of a loved one, I experienced a loss six years ago that brought me face to face with the question, Life goes on, how do you? Almost two decades ago while living elsewhere, I asked my primary care physician about an irritated area on my nose. He told me it was an infection and he gave me some antibiotic cream. This irritation came and went for several years and when we moved to State College, I eventually went to a dermatologist for skin cancer screening. The dermatologist scheduled me for a biopsy and we learned it was basal cell carcinoma. I was then scheduled to have MOHS surgery to remove the cancerous cells, one small piece at a time until they were certain they got it all. Three times the surgeon dug tissue from my nose and checked it under the microscope before she was certain I was in the clear. Because of the shape of my nose and the lack of extra tissue to stretch, I now needed reconstructive surgeries. That same day, the surgeon took a piece of cartilage from my ear and grafted it to my nose to begin the process. Our daughter’s high school graduation was in a few days, so the surgeon kindly bandaged me in a way that my profile from the right side looked normal – allowing for graduation pictures. I’ll continue this story next week.   

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

July 15 2019

After six weeks of my nose and cheek being hidden, and although the surgeon told me “You’re good to go,” I didn’t feel that way at all. My face was red and swollen and I felt badly about walking ba...

July 8 2019

Continuing with my story of Life goes on, how do you?...  After our daughter’s graduation, I returned to the surgeon, who cut a flap of skin from my cheek and grafted it to my nose while keepi...

June 24 2019

As we’ve been saying this month, grief companions come in many forms. In addition to humans, animals can be incredible companions for us on our grief journeys. I know our dog, Lady, helped us throu...

June 17 2019

At an education and support group I co-facilitated, we asked the participants to think about who had been the most supportive companions on their grief journeys. The answers came in many forms – fa...

June 10 2019

This week we continue with the theme, Grief. Companions Come in Many Forms.” I share with you now, Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D.’s 11 Tenets of Companioning the Bereaved: Companioning is about… Being pre...

June 3 2019

Our theme this month is “Grief. Companions Come in Many Forms.” Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D., first introduced me to the concept of grief companions. As a spiritual director, the tenets of grief companionin...

May 27 2019

The theme, “Loss. What Never Changes?” makes me think of the classic movie, The Wizard of Oz. After all kinds of loss, Dorothy learns that in order to return home, she doesn’t need the help of the ...

May 20 2019

In order to help us embrace our brokenness and attend to what never changes in loss, it is important to find safe places and communities where our hidden wholeness is welcome.  Our Monday’s Mo...

May 13 2019

Last week we introduced this month’s theme, “Loss. What Never Changes?” and referenced the hidden wholeness within us. In his book, A Hidden Wholeness: The Journey toward an Undivided Life – Welcom...

May 6 2019

Our theme this month is “Loss. What Never Changes?” In the Voices of Grief: Honoring the Sacred Journey documentary we share in the community, author, retreat leader, and speaker, Paula D’Arcy, tal...