January 25 2016

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, January 25, 2016

Another piece of the Have the Talk of a Lifetime is talking about how you want to be remembered.  Ok, I know this is the part of the conversation that starts to turn some people off.  You don’t want to talk about death; that feels morbid to you.  What you may find is that it feels exactly the opposite; it can feel life-giving.  In some monastic traditions, the monks hold death before themselves each day, not in a morbid way, but in a seize the day kind of way.  These conversations can help you do that too. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“To acknowledge that each day comes to a close, that each life comes to a close, is to hear the challenge to rise to the occasion and make something of this day, this life.”

                                         ~David Steindl-Rast and Sharon Lebell

 

 

 

 

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