September 30 2019

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, September 30, 2019

While you’re gaining strength through your grief journey, I encourage you to do as psychotherapist, writer and speaker Candyce Ossefort recommends and understand that needing help is normal:

This healing journey through the darkness is long and hard and at times unbearable. So we need help.

  • We need support from loved ones and community to reassure us they will be with us as long as it takes.
  • We need the patience and regard of the people around us.
  • We need time to slow down, not a push to hurry.
  • We need to know that it’s okay to distract ourselves from the pain when it becomes too much, not because the pain is damaging, but so that we can regain energy for facing it again when we feel stronger.
  • We need to know that we are respected for being strong for living even as we’re falling apart.

If you would like some help on this journey, please visit our Bereavement Gatherings and Events page to learn about upcoming community events.

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