June 20 2016

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, June 20, 2016

I had the privilege of recently helping a family honor their mother.  At the gathering after the service, I was so touched by a unique way they celebrated her life.  The mom had a fondness for the “Chicken Dance” and even requested that it be done after she died.  This loving family honored her wish.  Guests finished eating and were continuing to share stories when family members invited them to learn the dance.  Before long a group gathered, the dance was taught and the music began.  The group performed the dance with many smiles and all kinds of laughter.  At the end I heard one loved one say, “She (the mother) would have liked that!”  What a gift to everyone and what a loving gesture to model for the younger generations!

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