January 23 2017

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, January 23, 2017

I recently read in the book, The Other Side of Bonanno, that “prolonged grief is dominated by yearning, the repetitive and futile search for the lost loved one.” Sadly, yearning creates more pain, not comfort. I’ve worked with people who in time have allowed for the change of losing a loved one; it made a huge difference in their healing and continued engagement in life. Remembering lost loved ones brings comfort; yearning for them does not.

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