March 27 2017

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, March 27, 2017

In addition to the letting go of the longing for things to be different, when there is a loss, a letting go of unforgiveness may also be a part of the journey. Perhaps you want to forgive your loved one, yourself or others. Forgiveness is sometimes defined as letting go. It isn’t condoning or reconciling, it’s letting go of the negative emotions, like resentment and anger, and replacing them with more positive other-oriented emotions like compassion and love. You let go and release things that stand in the way of your freedom.

You need to be liberated. Don’t carry over experiences from the past. In fact, don’t carry over good experiences from the past either. Learn what it means to experience something fully, then drop it and move on to the next moment, uninfluenced by the previous one. You’d be traveling with such little baggage that you could pass through the eye of a needle.

                                                                                                                       ~Anthony de Mello

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