February 15 2016
Monday, February 15, 2016
As we discussed last week, the Grief Companioning that I offer is based on the philosophy created by Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D. For these next two weeks, I’ll share the 11 tenets of this model with you.
- Companioning is about being present to another person’s pain; it is not about taking away the pain.
- Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.
- Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect.
- Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head.
- Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggles of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles.
- Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led.
http://www.centerforloss.com/companioning-philosophy/#sthash.EOUpLJk3.dpuf
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