February 15 2016

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, February 15, 2016

As we discussed last week, the Grief Companioning that I offer is based on the philosophy created by Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D.  For these next two weeks, I’ll share the 11 tenets of this model with you.

  1. Companioning is about being present to another person’s pain; it is not about taking away the pain.
  2. Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.
  3. Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect.
  4. Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head.
  5. Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggles of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles.
  6. Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led.

 http://www.centerforloss.com/companioning-philosophy/#sthash.EOUpLJk3.dpuf

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