October 19 2020

By: Jackie Naginey Hook
Monday, October 19, 2020

In the early years of HEART (Helping Empty Arms Recover Together), a support group for people who have experienced pregnancy and early infant loss, I led a series entitled “Searching for Wholeness in a Broken Time.” Losing a pregnancy and/or infant can make you feel very broken. You feel broken as you grieve for the child you lost and the future you envisioned. You also feel broken as you come to terms with your body, a body that didn’t do what you expected. Even though there is no fault to be assigned, you feel like your body didn’t do what it was intended to do. I know about these feelings because I lost my first six pregnancies and for many years have companioned others who have lost pregnancies and infants. But even while feeling broken, I’ve learned we can search for wholeness. We each do it in our own unique ways and eventually find that we are whole again, but not the same. Please visit our website for upcoming programs that provide support as you climb out of the brokenness to wholeness.

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