February 8, 2021

By: Jackie Naginey Hook
Monday, February 8, 2021

Continuing with my article about “Heartfelt Support:”

Sometimes I’ve seen that courage lead to heartfelt decisions such as:

  • Families bring loved ones home to spend their final days.
  • A husband welcomes others at his wife’s bedside vigil, then welcomes the time he spends with her alone.
  • Families have difficult conversations about RUGS – Regrets, Unfinished business, Guilt and Shame.
  • Families hold masked and physically distant services, and open them up with remote viewing to loved ones around the world.
  • Support group participants who share stories, tears, and even laughter.

When we listen to our grieving hearts, they often tell us we need support from others. Grief is an individual journey that is best done in community. However, being a part of that community can be challenging.

First printed in the Centre County Gazette January 28 – February 3, 2021.

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