March 29 2021

By: Jackie Naginey Hook

Monday, March 29, 2021

I’ll close out this month of posts about masculine and feminine grieving by sharing a table adapted from Thomas R. Golden’s book Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing.

What aids the masculine?	What aids the feminine?
A map of the terrain	A community of support
Knowing their strength	Verbally sharing the pain
Linking that strength to action	Expressing the pain openly
Linking the action to the pain	Completing the past
The courage to stand in the tension	Relieving the pain through intimacy with others
Using the future

I encourage you to listen to your grief and follow the masculine and feminine ways it invites you.

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