April 12 2021
Monday, April 12, 2021
Continuing with our theme of “Leaning Into Sorrow,” our natural inclination is to lean away from pain. I often quote Robert Frost, “The best way out is always through.” I’ve learned in both my personal and professional lives that grief sticks around if we don’t lean into it, and begins to lighten if we do. But we don’t have to do it all at once or all the time. We can take it in doses. Margaret Stroebe and Henk Schut created the Dual Process Model of Grief that includes oscillating between a loss orientation – leaning into the sorrow – and a restoration orientation – addressing the life changes – with time away from both. We encourage you to find your own pace and take care of yourself in the process.
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