2022 - December - Gazette - Resolutions or Intensions

By: Jackie Naginey Hook
Thursday, December 29, 2022

Resolutions or Intentions

I’ve never been a person who is drawn to making New Year’s resolutions. Primarily because if I want to make a change in myself, I’ll make the change when I realize I want to make it rather than wait until New Years to do so. And secondly, resolutions often feel judgmental to me. They imply “good” or “bad” behavior.

Instead, I have been drawn to creating heartfelt intentions for myself. These heartfelt intentions feel more compassionate and all-encompassing. For example, a resolution might be to change my sleep pattern so I follow a consistent sleep schedule. The intention beneath this might be to nurture myself.

However, sometimes changes are very appropriate and necessary. When I had a concussion a couple of years ago, I was given specific lifestyle guidelines to follow, including adhering to the same go-to-sleep and wake-up times every day. That change, in addition to other daily guidelines such as exerting myself physically, spending time in socially diverse and active environments, and doing vestibular exercises, helped me to fully recover in two short months – after having six months of continued symptoms.

But with my concussion behind me, I no longer feel a mandated need to achieve a consistent sleep schedule and maintain that change. I do, however, feel the desire to nurture myself with my sleep, and to listen and respond to my body’s cues about when and how long I should sleep. I’ve found that a sleep schedule helps me do just that. Nurturing feels loving and kind, and those qualities can never steer me in the wrong direction.

In my family, we often talk about words that we use to describe and reflect our intentions – our intentions being the things we want to spend time with, notice, and bring into our lives more. At different times, one of those intentional words has been “nurture” for me.

Nurture comes from the Latin nutrire -- "to nourish, suckle." With many things going on in our world these days, we could all use a little nurturing and nourishment.

I invite you to consider the intention of nurturing yourself. Maybe it would be with little things such as giving yourself time instead of rushing to make a meeting or deadline. Or going outside every day and benefitting from the many nurturing aspects of nature, or having open and honest conversations with loved ones. There are countless ways to nurture yourself.

Make sure that you consider nurturing yourself in your many dimensions – your physical, cognitive, spiritual and emotional selves. And don’t forget about your social self – the need to be and spend time with others.  

Also recognize that nurturing yourself is not a once and done proposition. Take it one step at a time and incorporate nurturing as you go.

You can end this year nurturing yourself by attending the Koch Funeral Home 2nd Annual Luminaria Memorial Display between dusk and dawn on December 31st. Please stop by to see the more than 275 candlelit bags placed on the lawn representing the individuals who died and were cared for by Koch during 2022. The lights are a beautiful sight and are nurturing in that they help us focus on what really matters.

And if you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, we offer many gatherings and events to help nurture yourself. In particular, if you’ve lost a pregnancy or young infant, we are a part of the Footprints in the Field Grief and Loss Support Program that will be offered virtually on Thursdays, January 26 through March 2 from 6 to 7 p.m.

Other upcoming programs include:

For more information, please visit the Bereavement Gatherings and Events page on the Koch Funeral Home website. To reserve your spot and receive the invitation links, email Jackie@JackieHook.com, call 814-237-2712 or visit the Koch Funeral Home Facebook page @kochFH.

Here's to a nurturing 2023!

Jackie Naginey Hook, MA, is a spiritual director, celebrant and end-of-life doula.  She coordinates the Helping Grieving Hearts Heal program through Koch Funeral Home in State College.  For more information, please call 814-237-2712 or visit www.kochfuneralhome.com.


Leave a comment
Please enter the numbers and letters you see in the image. Note that the case of the letters entered matters.


Please wait

Previous Posts

2024 - March - CDT - Helping Hands - A Walk with Grief

A Walk with Grief I’ve become keenly aware of the dual process model of grief lately. This model involves oscillation between loss-oriented and restoration-oriented responses to grief. Sometimes a...

2024 - March - Gazette - Dad, Death, Daffodils, Ducks, Cardinals, and Comfort

Dad, Death, Daffodils, Ducks, Cardinals, and Comfort ... My 93-year-old dad died on Tuesday, March 12, 2024. When I left you in my February column, he was working hard to get his strength back aft...

2024 - February - Gazette - How Old Would You Be?

How Old Would You Be? How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were? When I ask this question, I get a variety of reactions. Some people laugh and say, “I’d be the age I am.” Others loo...

2024 - January - CDT - Learning to Live: What's Your Story? - Grief as a Funeral Director

Grief as a Funeral Director Ten years ago, on February 1, 2014, my wife Margie died. We were married for 50 years and eight months, and I still think of her every day. I always have a picture of h...

2024 - January - Gazette - Love Your Heart

Love Your Heart Children can be great role models for adults, in all kinds of ways. For example, when it comes to the grief journey, I have a special place in my heart for the funeral and memorial...

2023 - December - Gazette - Let's Remember

Let’s Remember Just a few days ago our family received a large tin of popcorn as a holiday gift. One-half of the tin was filled with caramel corn, one-quarter with buttered popcorn, and one-quarte...

2023 - December - CDT - Learning to Live: What's Your Story?

Expectant Waiting It was Christmas Eve 1993 and my husband, John, and I were spending the holidays at my parent’s house in Austin, Texas. I was doing my daily meditation when these words came into...

2023 - November - Gazette - Dare! Silence

A lot goes on in the silence.” These are words I often share because silence is a big part of my work. For example, I ask for moments of silence when officiating at memorial and funeral services. D...

2023 - Nov - CDT - Helping Hands - Healing Through the Holidays

Healing through the Holidays Author, poet, and civil rights activist, Maya Angelou, wrote, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” I witness this every day in my work ...

2023 - October - Gazette - Memories Become Treasures

Memories Become Treasures I was visiting with my mom and dad a couple of weeks ago and we started talking about my dad’s parents, who I lovingly called Grandma and Grandad. My mom shared two memor...