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September 18 2017

Have you heard about the blame and shame game? When something goes wrong, we point the finger at someone – blame them – and then treat them with disrespect – shame them. No one wins in that scenari...
By Jackie Hook
Monday, September 18, 2017

September 11 2017

As we continue looking at holding on or letting go of guilt and blame, I think of a grief education and support group I facilitated a few years ago. At one meeting, a woman shared some regrets she ...
By Jackie Hook
Monday, September 11, 2017

September 4 2017

This month our theme is “Guilt and Blame: Do You Hold On or Let Go?” Guilt, regret, blame and shame can all be part of the grief journey. They can also be painful to hold on to and difficult to rel...
By Jackie Hook
Monday, September 4, 2017

How did you choose the funeral director profession?

How did you choose the funeral director profession? “I like helping people and making them feel better in times of need.” For Katie DeCapria, funeral director intern, that sums up why she chose th...
By Katie DeCapria
Wednesday, August 30, 2017

August 28 2017

Attending to your own legacy is an important function of your life now. One way to do that is to write an ethical will or “legacy letter.” Rabbi Jack Riemer and Dr. Nathaniel Stampler say, “…the im...
By Jackie Hook
Monday, August 28, 2017

August 21 2017

What is your legacy? It is defined as a gift of property, especially personal property, and as money, by will or by bequest. It is also defined as anything handed down from the past, as from an anc...
By Jackie Hook
Monday, August 21, 2017

August 14 2017

We’ll continue the discussion of what remains without their physical presence – legacies. A few months ago I facilitated a group discussion about legacies – what they are and what we hope they will...
By Jackie Hook
Monday, August 14, 2017

Previous Posts

August 7 2017

This month our theme is “Without Their Physical Presence, What Remains?” As a spiritual director and celebrant, I have the privilege of sitting with individuals and families to hear the stories of ...

July 31 2017

 A third connection between grief and freedom is the recognition that as Thomas Merton, a Trappist monk and author, once said, “There is in all visible things…a hidden wholeness.” Even when yo...

July 24 2017

Related to the freedom to grieve we discussed last week, a second connection between grief and freedom is finding freedom within the grief.  When you allow yourself to feel and express your gr...

July 17 2017

As we explore connections between grief and freedom, we’ll first look at the freedom to grieve. Everyone’s grief experience is unique and giving yourself the freedom to grieve in your own way is an...

July 10 2017

What does freedom mean to you? According to www.dictionary.com, freedom is the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint. For some, grief feels like t...

July 3 2017

As we get ready to celebrate the 4th of July, our theme this month is “Freedom.” Just as our country experienced a struggle before achieving its freedom, the same can be true for us. For example, w...

June 26 2017

A poem I often share to encourage others to go within, feel the struggle and find the strength is “The Guest House” by Rumi. I hope this poem encourages you. This being human is a guest house. Eve...