March 19 2018

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, March 19, 2018

Today, we’ll continue to look at how families make it matter by adding exclamation points to the ways they care for their loved ones at death. This can be done in many ways. They can have a ceremony and share pieces of their loved one’s life story. They can include favorite poems, readings and music. They can bring personal items to share, including pictures, tribute videos and other memorabilia. The options are endless.

If the family doesn’t want a full ceremony, they can have a remembrance service. When someone we care about dies, we have an innate need to come together and tell the stories of their life. It is an important part of the healing process to set aside this time and create a space to remember. A remembrance service is a smaller, more intimate gathering with opportunities to say things that otherwise may not be said. In one such gathering I facilitated, an “ex-family” member shared how grateful they were to have still been included in this family. From the reactions of those gathered, it was clear this sentiment had never been shared before. 

(First printed in the Gazette on February 22, 2018)

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

March 30 2020

Below are the final two of Dr. Karen Wyatt’s seven ways to use grief to unite us from the End-of-Life University podcast, “How Grief Unites Us: To Stand Together for Love”: Find harmony with other...

March 23 2020

Continuing our discussion of Dr. Karen Wyatt’s seven ways to use grief to unite us from the End-of-Life University podcast, “How Grief Unites Us: To Stand Together for Love,” below are the next thr...

March 16 2020

In her End-of-Life University Podcast segment “How Grief Unites Us: To Stand Together for Love,” physician Karen Wyatt offers seven ways to utilize grief as a bridge to other people. Please know, d...

March 9 2020

Karen Wyatt, a physician and author, shared an End-of-Life University podcast entitled, “How Grief Unites Us: To Stand Together for Love.” In this segment, Karen spoke about how grief is a uni...

March 2 2020

This month our theme is “Grief Unites Us.” As I facilitate support gatherings, I’m often touched by the connections individuals make. When we’re grieving the loss of a loved one, we’re paying atten...

February 24 2020

To close out our theme of “Whispers of the Heart,” I want to share this poem from Joyce Rupp and encourage you to listen to the whispers and pay attention to the star in your heart. A Star In My H...

February 17 2020

In addition to the whispers of our hearts helping us feel the pain of our loss and moving it from the inside to the outside, the whispers can also remind us of our hidden wholeness. As Parker Palme...

February 10 2020

Alice Walker said, “In each of us, there is a little voice that knows exactly which way to go.” When we’re grieving, it may not feel like that. Our heart whispers might be quiet or they might be lo...

February 3 2020

This month our theme is “Whispers of the Heart.” I’m a big believer in listening to our hearts. We all have a head, a heart and a body and they each speak to us. Our hearts have a lot to say. When ...

January 27 2020

Another important piece of the “You got this!” encouragement for us as grievers includes reminding us to take care of ourselves. Grief can be exhausting and we need to be gentle with ourselves on t...