October 23 2023

By: Jackie Naginey Hook
Monday, October 23, 2023

In the book, A Grief Observed, C.S. Lewis wrote:

“And suddenly at the very moment when, so far, I mourned H. least, I remembered her best. Indeed it was something (almost) better than memory; an instantaneous, unanswerable impression. To say it was like a meeting would be going too far. Yet there was that in it which tempts one to use those words. It was as if the lifting of the sorrow removed a barrier. “

I think those words provide hope for mourners. The idea that when we mourn someone the least, we remember them the best. Our loved ones are gone, but very near.

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