June 25 2018

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, June 25, 2018

We invite you to engage in creative expressions. Write a story, create something, listen to music and/or whenever you see something that expresses how you feel, take a picture of it. The options are endless. When you’re grieving, let your heart express itself as Kenny U. Hudson said:

In everyday life there is light and there is shadow. If there is no light, there is no shadow. If we focus only on the light in our life, then the shadow gets larger, wanting our attention. Grief is shadow. When we turn to shine a light on our shadow, it is transformed. For centuries the creative process has offered people a way to express the inexpressible, to integrate the shadowy parts of life. Many of us say we “are not creative,” but we are all born creative. Every time I facilitate an art therapy group, I hear people apologize for their artmaking, and by the end, they have created something that speaks from their heart. They no longer apologize; they celebrate. It is a natural need and craving, but, by now, it may be shut away in a deep dark room within our hearts. If anything can unlock this door, it is our grief.

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