July 16 2018

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, July 16, 2018

Shifting Your Connection is a topic I appreciate discussing with individuals. Many mourners are afraid of being judged for wanting to continue bonds with their deceased loved ones and they’re so grateful to learn that this behavior is common and even healthy. I’ve had lots of one-on-one conversations that eventually turn to a quietly asked question along the lines of, “Is it okay that I __________ (fill in the blank with ‘talk to,’ ‘write to,’ etc.) my loved one?” After I assure them this behavior is “okay,” I often ask, “Does it bring you comfort?” And the reply is usually, “Yes.” I encourage them that comfort is good and if they ever feel they’re stuck in the past, meeting with a mental health counselor is recommended.

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