January 14 2019

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, January 14, 2019

How Do You Speak Grief? As we discussed last week, based on Dr. Gary Chapman’s five love languages, Dr. Alan Wolfelt believes we each have one of five preferred ways for others to support us in our grief. We’ll look at some simple explanations and suggestions for each of these ways.

One preferred way for grievers to be supported is by Receiving Gifts. After a death, people who prefer this love language appreciate flowers with a nice note and/or food tied with a ribbon. They also welcome gifts and kind cards on anniversaries of the heart, such as birthdays, holidays, etc.

A second preferred way for grievers to be supported is by Spending Quality Time Together. Those who prefer this welcome your presence and undivided attention. Spend time with them on a regular basis and be a good listener; you don’t have to say much.

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