September 16 2019

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, September 16, 2019

Other things that have given me strength on my grief journeys are my 4-3-2-1-! on Hope, Healing and Wholeness. In my own life and in companioning others, these practices, skills, intentions, posture and exclamation point help to heal us from the inside out.

4 Practices

  1. Centeredness – Going within and connecting to that hidden wholeness with contemplation, meditation, prayer, etc.
  2. Creativity – Thinking outside the box and finding meaningful new ideas and ways of being through the arts, creative expression, living creatively, etc.
  3. Community – Sharing yourself with others and others sharing themselves with you in friendships, companionships, supportive groups, etc.
  4. Caring - Compassionately nurturing self and others through self-care and helping others

3 Skills

  1. Noticing – Attending and surrendering to how your body is experiencing the present moment, its thoughts, sensations, feelings, etc.
  2. Nurturing – Welcoming compassion, affection, love and light into these sensations, feelings and thoughts
  3. Releasing - Letting go of the feelings, thoughts and sensations

2 Intentions

  1. To heal, grow and be transformed
  2. To look for life, love and light along the way

1 Posture

  1. Openness – Letting go and being open to receive

!

  1. Ritual and ceremony – When words aren’t enough, honoring the transition with ritual and ceremony
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