December 14 2020

By: Jackie Naginey Hook
Monday, December 14, 2020

Several theories about grieving include the mourner’s need to search for meaning. Many of us know about Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’ five stages of grief – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Elisabeth didn’t define these as linear stages, just common experiences people had. David Kessler, who worked with Elisabeth, recently received permission from her family to add a sixth stage, finding meaning. According to David, “meaning comes through finding a way to sustain your love for the person after their death while you’re moving forward with your life. Loss is simply what happens to you in life. Meaning is what you make happen.” I encourage you to make meaning happen. 

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