July 18 2016

By: Jackie Hook
Monday, July 18, 2016

Have you ever taken the opportunity to let go into your grief?  Sometimes avoiding grief is harder than simply experiencing it. This proved true for me a few years ago when I said goodbye to a phase of my life. After homeschooling both of our children for all of their lives, they both chose to go to school for the first time on a late August day. Although excited for them that morning, I also felt sadness for the loss of the life I knew. At first I pushed the sadness away but then had the freedom to surrender to it. Afterwards I was struck by how much better I felt and how I really was able to let go of my life as it was. I was grateful for the freedom to grieve in my own way.

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