July 26 2021

By: Jackie Naginey Hook
Monday, July 26, 2021

To summarize the study we’ve discussed the past couple of weeks, we look to psychologist Noam Schneck, Ph.D. who states: “… healing and growth may continue even when a person is not actively thinking about the loss.” He adds, “Specifically, during times when a person is engaged in another activity unrelated to grief and not even thinking about their loss, the brain continues to engage with the loss and potentially work through the mourning process.”

This is such great news for mourners who feel guilty when they forget to think about their loved one. Even not thinking about our loved ones can help us heal and healing is what our loved ones would want for us, right? We encourage you to embrace unconscious grief!

https://www.dana.org/article/brains-unconscious-loss-processing-may-support-grief-resolution/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30262338/ 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/focus-forgiveness/201307/conscious-the-unconscious

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/unconscious

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